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Forgive Yourself
If you forgive yourself, you can forgive others. If you have a conscience and most of us do (even criminals), you are aware when you slip up. Hopefully learning is a life long process and things that...
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Another Post on Anger
Violence! (Photo credit: Rickydavid) After yesterday’s massacre at Sandy Hook, it seems more and more important that we own and control the expression of our anger. Yes, the shooter may have been...
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Abuse, the Controlling of Others
Abuse (Photo credit: Ex-InTransit) Three people in chains, probably somewhere in East-Africa. The total number of slaves in early twentieth-century Ethiopia is estimated at between 2 and 4 million in...
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Practice Makes Perfect Sense
Bullying (Photo credits: www.mysecuritysign.com) Practice makes perfect unfortunately sometimes. People continue to think that obsessive preoccupation with playing violent video games is harmless...
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Things You Are Not To Talk About
Things you are not to talk about keep you in a prison of silence. There are things you don’t share with others. It can be a burden to carry these things alone and to whose advantage is this?...
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First You must Be Able To Forgive Yourself Before You Can Forgive Someone Else
God Wants Me To Forgive Them!?! DVD Cover (Photo credit: Wikipedia) You must be able to forgive yourself before you can forgive someone else. How can you conceive of the need to forgive somebody...
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The Most Dangerous Words: I Love You.
Three simple words, “I love you,” but very dangerous. Can a boyfriend say this to a girlfriend or vice versa? What if he or she doesn’t say it back? Jesus said, “Love your enemies.” This can be...
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Kids And Monsters Under The Bed
Most parents and other people too have heard about little kids and seeing monsters under their beds or in their closets. It seems like a baseless fear, doesn’t it? It is not a baseless fear....
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Why do we hurt each other instead of those who hurt us?
“Make my day! Just thinking…That can get you in trouble around here. (Want to get this up in rough draft form before the internet gets too busy discussing this issue.) How many people in Ferguson,...
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Trust, Mistrust, The Theft Of Innocence
Sorry to be so serious, so somber; but as I have been teaching child psychology this semester, I got to thinking about how abuse abuses a child’s sense of trust. The first psychosocial stage in...
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Feeling Beat Down And Worn Out?
Criticism and put-downs can be a form of mental abuse and so can sarcasm and being told that you can’t take a joke. Constant volleys of such “verbal” abuse can wear a person down and definitely not...
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When Feelings Aren’t Wrong In Therapy
Don’t Ask; Don’t Tell. When feelings aren’t wrong in therapy and might be a warning sign: As a therapist, I have been in psychotherapy working on my own issues. It seems that the first thing a...
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Power Versus Force
Thought for the day: We all have power, but people, who like to use “force” to get us to do what they want us to do, don’t want us to believe it. How many people are enslaved by the thought that they...
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Be Careful Around Those With A History Of Sexual Abuse
(Here is the place to put a graphic picture of sexual abuse; but that might be considered child pornography.) I am talking about the abuser, not the victim. The chances are extremely high they will...
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What Makes Child Sexual Abuse Easier? Gullibility, Secrecy, Opportunity,...
A Perplexed Child Gullibility: We would like to think the best of someone sometimes rather than the worst. We can be gullible when we believe that any authority figure is an expert about such things...
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Are Private Parts Not Private Anymore?
Remember when you were not supposed to share your private parts with anyone, but a parent, or with someone else usually a medical person when your parents were present. Later you were told you could...
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Why Do We Avoid Calling Child Sexual Abuse Rape?
(No pictures were used in the context of this discussion of whether or not child abuse is actually rape; because any pictures used of children might be considered sexualized.) In thinking about Child...
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Guilt, Shame, & Fear Of Violating Taboos Make Limits
Having explored many different areas of life and having come to the conclusion that there are:”Different Strokes for different folks,” I suggest we embrace diversity. Just because we are used to...
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Do You Respect Yourself As Much As You Respect Other people?
When someone is rude inappropriate or disrespectful to you, are you too embarrassed to speak up for yourself or are you afraid that the other person might get angry at you? Some people count on you...
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Could Putdowns Be A Form Of Putting A Curse On Someone?
The witches (at least the bad ones) have gone and people don’t worry about curses being put upon them anymore or do they? When people put you down to make themselves feel better or to raise themselves...
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